In this guide you will:
Find simple ways to start challenging conversations
Get resources to help with everyday parenting challenges
FIRST STEPS:
“YOU AREN’T IN THIS ALONE”
Ready to take on the challenge of creating a better connection with your teen? With these tips to get you started, you can win this round.
Play together, stay together:
Try to find some shared interests with your teen, like playing video games, going for a walk, or watching their favorite movies.
Actively listen and ask questions:
Give them your full attention, and let them know you care about what they say. Ask open-ended questions to encourage more conversation.
Pro-Tip:
Check out more of our tips for good listening:
Here’s What Good Listening Looks Like
Problem solve together:
When they encounter a problem, work together to solve it. Don’t try to solve it for them. (Most teens say they don’t like that.)
Celebrate wins!
When your teen accomplishes something, celebrate it. It can be big or small; what matters is cheering them on.
Communicate your rules and boundaries:
Be consistent, encouraging, and fair — but set clear boundaries and limits, and communicate them so your teen understands. Discuss compromises if they feel the rules are unfair.
Expand their horizons:
Inspire your teen to explore different activities and discover what they love.
Pro-tip:
Check out our tips for expanding their possibilities:
How Do I Help My Teen Find Their Passion
Don’t let emotions, like anger or fear, take over when you hear something unexpected or difficult.
It can sometimes be hard for young people to share their feelings or experiences. They may also be worried about your reaction if they open up to you. Just listen.
Be consistent and keep your conversations going.
If a conversation feels hard, you can pause and return to it another day. You don’t have to cover everything at once.
Remember, your relationship doesn’t have to be perfect:
Even if your teen shuts you out or you feel discouraged, keep trying.